In today’s world, where self-worth is strongly associated with material success, your net worth, profession, possessions, achievements, and successes, it is elementary to undervalue yourself in the absence of any or all of those things. Even though this evaluation is as socially accurate as it gets, this ideology has one massive flaw: if you lose your job, wealth, or success, you are worth nothing.
This flawed idea of self-worth is embedded in our mindset from the beginning through societal and family traditions through conditioning, such as if you get good grades, you are more appreciated as an individual, or if you are earning a high figure salary, you are more respected. If you are struggling with your education, you are a failure, or if you don’t get to own a very expensive car, then you are a nobody. It is a cycle of living a sure way to have validation and acceptance.
So much of our conditioning is societal, cultural, and familial, where we are programmed to believe how much money we make, what we own, how our bodies look like, who we marry, and or at what age we get married (in some cultures). This is why self-acceptance is crucial to having that internal moral compass, so whether you make that six-figure salary or not or don’t get married by the age of 25, you don’t feel like a failure. That’s the truth of life: not everyone will have kids by 27 or be financially settled by 30.
Recognize How You Are Loving Yourself
Learn to recognize how you are loving yourself every day. Every time you do something nice for yourself, you love yourself. Every time you say yes to something that will bring you joy, you love yourself. If you are a closed-off person and say yes to new experiences, you love yourself. If you are an easygoing person and you are setting boundaries, you are loving yourself. You are loving yourself whenever you allow others to love and support you.
A part of raising your self-worth is recognizing and practicing self-love.
Accepting the Hurting Parts of Yourself
Understand that wanting love does not make you “needy.” But there are times when you don’t have access to it. In instances such as losing a parent or a partner, you will experience a loss of that source of love. In some cases, that might be the only source of love that you have had. In the absence of love, learn to be there for yourself. Learn to sit with your difficult emotions and confront them rather than running away from them.
It is never easy to master that inner dialogue, but try to do that. If you can master your thoughts, you can master your life. Instead of externalizing your experience, internalize your experience; ask yourself how you can soothe yourself in a healthy way? How can you heal yourself?
Understand yourself better, your needs, and your beliefs.
Learn Something New
Whether you pick a hobby or learn a professional skill, engage in the learning process. Continuously invest in learning and developing yourself. Learning is an empowering act. It boosts your confidence; you feel more capable and self-assured as you become more competent in different areas.
In essence, learning is a lifelong journey that expands your horizons and empowers you to lead a more fulfilling and purposeful life. It’s a continuous process of self-discovery, growth, and transformation that can profoundly impact your personal and professional well-being. Knowledge is one constant in life that will always stay with you, even if you lose everything else.
Reinforce Positive Self-Talk
Reinforce positive self-talk. How you talk to yourself reflects in your physical body. Constant negative self-talk damages self-esteem to a great degree. Replace every negative comment with 3 positive affirmations.
“I can never do this,” -
“I’m learning.”
“I’m growing.”
“I will be able to do this very soon.”
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